Author: Sean Grover
How to Seize Control from Your Darling Bully and Enjoy Being a Parent Again!
LOVED LOVED LOVED IT!
One of the issues I have been working on as a Baby Boomer is my lack of boundaries. Yes, I am one of the wussy parents, the lady who apologizes when your car smashes into mine, the Avoider of the Dreaded NO WORD. And guess what! It doesn’t work for me. Doormat is NOT MY NAME! And yup, my grown kids wipe up the floor with me. SO I NEEDED – not just wanted – THIS BOOK!
And Sean Grover hit his groove in a savvy compilation of how NOT to let your kids (or neighbors, or Church Group, or pet or Significant Other) get away with tantrums and taunts that make you cringe into giving them their way.
- Say it 100 times. Then write it 100 times! Then buy this book and read it!
Sean Grover tells us like it is as a used to be bullied parent. “My daughter,” he says, “had every right to bully. She’s a KID and that is what kids do. The problem was my reaction to her bullying.
Rather than helping her manage her feelings and impulses, I was busy blaming her and trying to control her. Worse, I was responding to her bullying with my own bullying. When she got mad, I got madder. As a parent I wasn’t leading, I was reacting. My only escape from the Suffering Parent Club was to dig deep into my own past and uncover why I allowed my daughter to bully me.”
As Grover realizes that to change his daughter’s behavior he had to change his own, he sought out a behavioral therapist. And the therapist gave him the best advice he had ever gotten. “Take your daughter out to breakfast three times a week. And remember. Children have temper tantrums, parents DO NOT.”
With this priceless compendium of how to build your personalized parenting toolbox, Grover gives us all the tools we need to become the PARENT, not the best friend, the worst friend or the blamer of your children. Step by step he takes parent through navigating parental crisis points (illness and injury, trauma, divorce, adoption, financial hardship, learning issues, and death) that trigger bullying in children. He pulls tools out of the toolbox to assist parents in their journey to better parenting: a parenting journal, how to handle conflict, the bully impulse.
Even if you are not having a problem with your children walking all over you, I absolutely loved this book as it gives all parents, young and old, tips and techniques to solve the problem, not just shove it under the rug. Grover is magnificent! A MUST HAVE BOOK for parents, teachers, and this blogger!
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When Kids Call the Shots: How to Seize Control from Your Darling Bully — and Enjoy Being a Parent Again is available for purchase on Amazon.com and at bookstores nationwide