Breakups are never an easy situation to deal with. At the end of the day, for a break up to happen, there has to be a change in feelings, or someone has to have behaved in an unacceptable manner – both experiences that can be difficult to process and get over. But the truth is that healing comes with time and as long as you deal with the situation in an appropriate and adult manner, you will move beyond the situation. Here’s some advice that can help you through this process.
If the breakup wasn’t your idea, you are going to have to work to accept the situation that is on your hands. Sure, some relationships can be resolved through communication, therapy, counselling and taking the other’s reasonable requests into account. But not every relationship can or should be saved. Sometimes, one partner simply doesn’t want the situation to continue. In cases like this, you are going to have to take time to respect and accept the other party’s wishes and needs. If you find yourself struggling with this process, don’t forget that there is help out there. Whether that’s a support group, therapy, counselling or other healthy communication methods.
Getting Used to Life Without Your Partner
A lot of people become quite co-dependent when in a relationship. When their partner leaves, or they leave their partner, they can begin to feel a bit lost. If this applies to you, make sure that you only use healthy coping mechanisms to get used to life without your partner. Therapy and counselling can help with this.
Dividing Shared Assets
Breaking up is hard. Breaking up when you shared assets is more difficult. This is because there probably isn’t a clear line between what is yours and what is your partner’s, seeing as you may have purchased various items together. If you are married, there will be rules and guidelines that can be easily followed regarding the protocol of dividing assets. You can look into books on divorce mortgages for further assistance with this, or you can speak with a family lawyer. If you are not married, things can get a little more difficult. If you and your partner can be amicable and fair, this process will take less time and be less problematic. If not, you may both require the assistance of a lawyer for support and guidance.
If you have children, navigating a break-up can become even more difficult. If you and your partner are no longer living together, you will need to look into splitting parental responsibility, and coming up with a fair plan regarding living arrangements and time with both parents that are arranged with your children’s best interests in favour. Again, how you arrange this will depend on whether you and your partner can arrange this fairly and amicably. If not, you may, again, require the help of a family lawyer for further assistance.
A break-up is never going to be an easy process to go through, but hopefully, some of the information above will help you on this journey.